I’ve been hearing this since I was a kid, so incorporating that lesson into our business has been quite beneficial. Don’t get me wrong. It’s great to learn from others. But you have to find out what works for you.
No one ever really made it to the top by being a wannabe. What do I mean when I say “wannabe?” In the workplace, there are some “who mirror a boss or someone in a higher position,”(Kriegel). Looking up to someone as a mentor is totally different. Taking the knowledge you gained from someone else and using it to stand out in your industry is exactly what you are supposed to do. Trying to copy those in positions of power, to the extent that you lose your sense of self and vision, means you lose the ability to be received as organic and genuine. In your industry, find your niche and roll with it. Create an idea that is totally refreshing, or even better, brand new!
Believe you are enough.
So, how do you determine if you’re a wannabe? I read an article on Forbes.com, Are You Only a Wannabe? that made me analyze my own behavior for any of these traits, whether in my personal or work life. To be honest, there were two. The one that stood out the most was afraid of success, and the other one was doubt. I have to admit I do suffer from these downfalls, so reading this list gave me an Aha! moment to self evaluate and remind myself I have what it takes. I want to share a quick overview of the list, as I’m sure it’ll help people stay focused, and practice the type of behavior and lifestyle it takes to be a successful entrepreneur.
1) Lack Goals
You know the type: Wannabes think success just happens. So they don’t create clear goals.
2) Don’t Make It a Habit
They claim it’s a calling, but it’s really a diversion. Wannabes talk a good game. Their words ooze with erudition and passion. But their habits reflect a commitment to something else entirely.
3) Always Comparing
Want to know the quickest path to losing your mind? Start comparing yourself to others.
We’ve all heard it. It’s that inner voice.
“You’re not smart enough.”
“You don’t have the connections.”
“It’s already been done.”
“What happens if you fail?”
“Isn’t this life good enough?”
That voice questions your abilities. It sees what is, not what could be. And it can only divine the downsides.
5) Get Defensive
Wannabes are defined by one trait: Fear. They shy away from criticism, terrified of having their precious handiwork examined. When challenged, they close themselves off or lash out, claiming anyone who disagrees “just doesn’t understand.”
Wannabes don’t look forward to the work. So they find ways to put it off. Some wait for the “right time,” believing inspiration will somehow strike and the work will take care of itself.
7) Underestimate the Work
Here’s a secret: Wannabes are romantics. They picture a world where great ideas just pop up. Their work will somehow be what’s missing from their lives. But here’s reality: The process is tedious, exhausting, and thankless. It’ll encompass countless false starts, difficulties, and disappointments.
8) Develop No Track Record
Many wannabes are full of ideas. They’re often pretty good. But here’s what separates the wannabes from the couldbes: Wannabes rarely finish. They spend their days gathering information, weighing, revising, polishing and perfecting. But they rarely put anything out into the world.
9) Don’t Live in the Moment
You’ll find a wannabe anywhere but the present. Some are jumping steps ahead, counting their future sales and building a trophy case.
10) Stop Improving
They taste a little success. And it feeds into their worst instincts. Suddenly, these wannabes think they’re better than what they really are. They lose their edge.
11) Driven By the Wrong Reasons
They hitch their identities to certain paths without truly understanding why. Will is only as strong as the reasons that fuel it.
12) Won’t Ask for Help
Typically, wannabes are out to prove how smart and tough they are. So they go it alone and do it their way.
13) Not Always On
Talented people just can’t shut it off. Their minds are always churning with new ideas to expand and enhance their brand.
14) Care What Others Think
Every person who ever made a difference shares one trait: They didn’t listen to their doubters.
15) Afraid of Success
Pretty ironic, huh? Some wannabes are actually intimidated by a little success. Read the full article.
In order to stay relevant and on top of the game in any industry, entrepreneurs must become good enough by continually “smoldering, studying, experimenting, revising, inventing, and persevering. That’s the same formula that molded every pioneer from Sophocles to Steve Jobs. The doers understand one truth: Wannabes compare themselves while leaders separate themselves,” (forbes.com)
So let’s be leaders that stand out from the rest through strength, hard work, and passion, my fellow entrepreneurs!